# What Does Sadism Mean in BDSM?

> In BDSM, sadism is the pleasure of giving wanted intensity with enough authority, skill and attention to make a partner feel held rather than harmed. It is not cruelty, not automatically dominance, and never permission to ignore a boundary.

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## Scope

This page covers: sadism meaning.
Also addresses: what does sadism mean; sadist meaning in bdsm; sadism in a relationship.
Not covered here (see the linked pages instead): masochism meaning; s and m meaning; sadist and masochist meaning; dominance vs control.

## Key concepts

- sadism
- sadist
- BDSM
- dominance
- consent
- cruelty
- abuse
- sexual sadism disorder

## Sections

- Sadism meaning in BDSM (https://grayside.in/learn/sadism-meaning/#sadism-meaning-in-bdsm)
- Why this word causes so much confusion (https://grayside.in/learn/sadism-meaning/#why-the-word-causes-confusion)
- Consensual sadism versus cruelty (https://grayside.in/learn/sadism-meaning/#consensual-sadism-vs-cruelty)
- Sadism versus dominance (https://grayside.in/learn/sadism-meaning/#sadism-vs-dominance)
- Sadism versus abuse (https://grayside.in/learn/sadism-meaning/#sadism-vs-abuse)
- Sadism and masochism (https://grayside.in/learn/sadism-meaning/#sadism-and-masochism)
- Is sadism a mental disorder? (https://grayside.in/learn/sadism-meaning/#is-sadism-a-mental-disorder)
- Why you might use the label, and what it does not grant (https://grayside.in/learn/sadism-meaning/#why-someone-might-use-the-label)

## Sources referenced

- American Psychiatric Association — Paraphilic Disorders (DSM-5 Fact Sheet) (https://www.psychiatry.org/File%20Library/Psychiatrists/Practice/DSM/APA_DSM-5-Paraphilic-Disorders.pdf)
- The Journal of Sex Research — Jaime M. Brown, Meg-John Barker & Qazi Rahman, "A Systematic Scoping Review of the Prevalence, Etiological, Psychological, and Interpersonal Factors Associated with BDSM" (https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31617765/)

Last reviewed: 2026-09-02